How to Use Reverse Psychology

What is reverse psychology, and why does it work? Your questions, answered

Reverse psychology refers to getting another person to do or say something by telling them the opposite of what is desired. It’s a common tactic commonly found in advertising and even parenting, and can be a great skill when used carefully and responsibly. We’ll show you how to use reverse psychology, and show you when it’s appropriate versus when it’s manipulative. We’ll also tell you why it works, how to spot it, and how to respond when someone else uses it.

[Edit]Things You Should Know

• Start by presenting the other person with their options, but don’t tell them which one you prefer.
• Argue against the option you actually want. Act uncertain, or tell the person you don’t think they’d want it, or are capable of doing it.
• Tell the other person that whatever they do, it’s their choice, to give them the autonomy to make a decision and dodge suspicion.

[Edit]Steps

[Edit]Using Reverse Psychology

1. Start by presenting an option that you want. This is probably the thing the person would normally resist and may initially scoff at, like a kid who doesn’t want to eat their asparagus.^[1] Make sure the person is aware of the option at hand, without pushing them that direction just yet.
   
   • For example, say you're deciding between 2 parties to attend. Your friend is a film fanatic, and their group of friends are having a movie night. You're more of a board game person, and another group of friends is having a game night.
   • Make your friend aware of the option you want. Say something like, "Did you hear Madison and Emily are doing that board game night? Kind of boring, if you ask me."
2. Drop subtle hints that make the option you want more enticing. You might tell them that you’re not convinced yourself, and need help choosing.^[2] Then, plant in the person’s head some positive outcomes of what might happen if they choose your option. Again, it’s important not to seem too enthusiastic.
   
   • For example, casually mention some fun board games that will be played at the event, or bring up who else is going, or other things, like, "Madison always has the best selection of wine at her place."
   • Or, use nonverbal cues, like playing a game of cards with your friend a few days before the event, letting them see for themself how much fun games can be.
3. Discourage or argue against the option you want. Once the person is hooked, become slightly argumentative.^[3] This makes your friend naturally push for the option you want. One common strategy is to suggest that they’re not ready for it, like, “These games might be a little too hard for you, though…”^[4]
   
   • Or, say something like, "Well, we can go to Madison and Emily's, or that movie night. What do you think? I think Madison and Emily's thing may be a tad boring."
   • If they’re still ambivalent, be more overt. Say something like, "We can always go to Madison and Emily's another time."
4. Push the person to make a decision. To close the negotiating process, push the person to make a decision. This makes them think they're making their own choice, without your influence. Ask them politely what they want to do, and wait for a response. Hopefully, the person will go for the option you were vying for.^[5]
   
   • Say something like, "So, we can go to Madison and Emily's, or the movie night. What do you think? It's your decision."
   • This also pressures the person to make a more urgent decision, and they might yield to your choice under that pressure.

[Edit]Why does reverse psychology work?

1. Reverse psychology takes advantage of natural defiance. People generally don’t love being told what to do, so when they think they’re being influenced or manipulated, they’re likely to go the other direction simply to prove their freedom and autonomy.^[6] Reverse psychology is a way of using this impulse to one’s advantage.
   
   • This impulse is sometimes called “reactivity” or “strategic self-anticonformity.”

[Edit]Making Sure Reverse Psychology Is Effective

1. Make sure your target is susceptible to suggestion. Not everyone responds well to reverse psychology. People who tend to be more compliant may respond better to direct requests, while people who like to argue are better targets for reverse psychology strategies.^[7]
   
   • Think about the interactions you've had with the person in question. Do they tend to go along with the flow of things, or do they tend to resist?
   • If you know someone who is a more independent thinker, and likes to resist the status quo, this person may be more susceptible to reverse psychology than a person who's generally agreeable.
2. Use reverse psychology in low-stakes, lighthearted situations. Reverse psychology should be a fun game, or even a joke. This is especially true when using the technique on very young children. Try to use it as a means to make someone think they're outsmarting you, or to teach a lesson.^[8]
   
   • For example, you might explain to a child that he's too young to make his bed on his own and needs help. Later, you may find he's already started on his own, as he wants to prove his autonomy.
3. Change your strategy according to what the other person wants. If someone's desire to do something outweighs their urge to resist, classic reverse psychology may backfire, since they’ll do the thing anyway.^[9]
   
   • For example, say your friend really wants to attend a concert in a bad part of town. If you say, "You're right. You should go!" your friend may wholeheartedly agree.
   • Instead, try arguing against yourself in these cases, rather than the choice at hand. Say, "I can't make you do anything you don't want to do. I'm pretty sure this part of town is dangerous, but only you can decide what's best for you."
   • You're encouraging your friend to think for themselves here. If your friend is naturally resistant, they may instead yield to your advice rather than thinking for themselves.
4. Keep your end goal in mind to avoid confusing yourself. Remind yourself periodically what you want the person to do. Occasionally, things can get argumentative when you use reverse psychology. It's easy to lose track of your own wants during an argument—and reverse psychology can even work on yourself!^[10]
   

[Edit]Using Reverse Psychology Responsibly

1. Use reverse psychology only once in a while. Reverse psychology can work great in certain situations. However, keep in mind that, yes, it is a subtle form of manipulation. Using reverse psychology habitually can be incredibly damaging to relationships and erode other people’s trust in you.^[11]
   
   • Constant reverse psychology can indicate an unwillingness to compromise. That constant manipulation and lack of compromise can be a huge red flag in any relationship.^[12]
   • Also, the other person might learn that they’re rewarded for opposing you, which can cause rifts in the relationship.
2. Stop using reverse psychology if it frustrates the other person. There’s always a chance your target might pick up on the strategy and become agitated.^[13] If this happens, apologize and drop the tactic, using more transparent and straightforward methods, instead.
   
   • Manipulating other people while they’re under stress is never okay, even in lighthearted situations.
   • Stay calm and cool yourself to avoid suspicion and make your strategy more effective.
3. Avoid using reverse psychology in serious situations. There are certain situations where reverse psychology is likely to backfire, and the consequences can be serious. Always refrain from using reverse psychology when someone's health and wellbeing is at stake.^[14]
   
   • For example, say your friend is chronically afraid of doctors. They have a suspicious mole growing on their shoulder and is resistant to getting it checked out.
   • Do not say, "You're right. Do not go to the doctor." Your friend's fear of doctors may greatly outweigh their need to resist, and you may reinforce a dangerous behavior.

[Edit]Signs Someone is Using Reverse Psychology

1. They won’t say what they want directly. Reverse psychology requires a little finesse and dancing around the point, as the person using it tries to nudge you one way or another.^[15] If someone won’t come right out and say what they want and why, you might be dealing with a little manipulation.
   
2. They challenge your own ability or desire to do something. A common tactic of reverse psychology is telling someone they’re not able to do something, or doubting their resolve, to make them “prove” otherwise.^[16] If someone challenges you this way, don’t fall for it!
   
   • For example, a parent might say, “Oh, you’re not ready for vegetables like carrots,” to convince their child to eat the carrot and “prove” they’re old enough for it.
3. They have something to gain from the discussion. Ultimately, reverse psychology is a manipulation tactic (even if it’s often harmless) that people use to get their way.^[17] Ask yourself if the other person stands to gain something by getting you to do what you don’t really want to. They might have other motivations.
   
   • For example, you might be headed to Party A, but they want to go to Party B to see someone they like, and so try to sway you in that direction with reverse psychology.
4. What they want doesn’t match up to what you know about them. Reverse psychology hinges on arguing against what you really want.^[18] It’s easy to spot when someone’s argument doesn’t match up with what you already know they want for a fact. These inconsistencies can help you spot it a mile away.
   
   • For example, if your friend has talked in the past about wanting to see a certain movie, but now they keep hinting that it’s not worth your time, they may be trying to influence you.

[Edit]Responding to Reverse Psychology

1. Ask them to explain why they want what they say they want. If they’re using reverse psychology and arguing for something they don’t actually want in the hopes you’ll go the other way, it can be easy to make them falter.^[19]
   
   • Ask them to explain their position, and listen for any inconsistencies. Their argument might not make much sense when you really think about it.
   • For example, if they’re arguing in favor of chocolate ice cream when you know they prefer vanilla, say that! They might start to backpedal.
2. Pick the choice you originally wanted anyway. When in doubt, rewind to the start of the conversation and tell them you’re doing what you originally set out to do. They may learn that reverse psychology doesn’t work on you, and give it up in the future.^[20]
   
3. Let them know that you know what they’re doing. If you’re certain they’re trying to use reverse psychology on you, reveal that you know. If they know that you know how it works, they’re less likely to try it on you moving forward.^[21]
   
   • That said, watch out for reverse-reverse psychology, which is when someone uses your own knowledge of the strategy to pretend they’re not doing it.
   • With reverse-reverse psychology, someone wants you to think they’re doing reverse psychology to make you pick the option you think they don’t want you to do. Tricky!

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[Edit]Warnings

• This isn't the healthiest way to communicate, since you're essentially taking advantage of (and spurring) someone's misguided rebelliousness.^[22] In the case of children, they usually grow out of it, but most adults will realize how silly they're being and respond to nonviolent communication instead.

[Edit]Related wikiHows

• Persuade People with Subconscious Techniques
• Be Persuasive

[Edit]References

[Edit]Quick Summary

1. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201109/the-true-spirit-reverse-psychology
2. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201302/when-all-else-failstry-reverse-psychology
3. ↑ https://www.researchgate.net/publication/233021679_Do_people_use_reverse_psychology_An_exploration_of_strategic_self-anticonformity
4. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201302/when-all-else-failstry-reverse-psychology
5. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-science-influence/201104/do-you-use-reverse-psychology-stop-right-now
6. ↑ https://www.researchgate.net/publication/233021679_Do_people_use_reverse_psychology_An_exploration_of_strategic_self-anticonformity
7. ↑ https://www.researchgate.net/publication/233021679_Do_people_use_reverse_psychology_An_exploration_of_strategic_self-anticonformity
8. ↑ https://www.simplypsychology.org/reverse-psychology-what-is-it-and-does-it-work.html
9. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-science-influence/201104/do-you-use-reverse-psychology-stop-right-now
10. ↑ https://www.simplypsychology.org/reverse-psychology-what-is-it-and-does-it-work.html
11. ↑ https://www.wonderopolis.org/wonder/how-does-reverse-psychology-work
12. ↑ [v162069_b01]. 3 February 2022.
13. ↑ https://www.livescience.com/55272-how-reverse-psychology-works.html
14. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-science-influence/201104/do-you-use-reverse-psychology-stop-right-now
15. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-science-influence/201104/do-you-use-reverse-psychology-stop-right-now
16. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201109/the-true-spirit-reverse-psychology
17. ↑ https://www.simplypsychology.org/reverse-psychology-what-is-it-and-does-it-work.html
18. ↑ https://www.livescience.com/55272-how-reverse-psychology-works.html
19. ↑ https://www.simplypsychology.org/reverse-psychology-what-is-it-and-does-it-work.html
20. ↑ https://www.simplypsychology.org/reverse-psychology-what-is-it-and-does-it-work.html
21. ↑ https://www.simplypsychology.org/reverse-psychology-what-is-it-and-does-it-work.html
22. ↑ https://www.simplypsychology.org/reverse-psychology-what-is-it-and-does-it-work.html

How to Forehead Kiss Meaning

Understand the psychology behind this magical and mysterious kiss

A forehead kiss is a gentle and personal gesture—but it can be hard to tell what someone means when they give you one. Do they just care about you in a friendly way? Do they like you as more than a friend? Or, are they in love with you? While there are many reasons behind this intimate gesture, there are a lot of factors to consider, including the context of the situation and your relationship to the other person. In this article, we’re going over all the possible meanings behind a forehead kiss (plus, what they symbolize)!

[Edit]Things You Should Know

• A forehead kiss is a heartfelt gesture that shows someone truly cares about you. Depending on the context and your relationship with the other person, it can be platonic or romantic.
• If your crush kisses you on the forehead, watch their behavior: if they kiss you in private or after a deep conversation, they might be expressing their romantic feelings toward you.
• If your partner or a loved one kisses you on the forehead, it’s usually a sign of love and protection—they want you to feel safe, secure, and supported.

[Edit]Steps

[Edit]What does it mean if someone kisses you on the forehead?

1. A forehead kiss is a heartfelt gesture that shows they really care about you. It’s another way to express respect and admiration, and it can indicate they feel a deep connection to you. While a forehead kiss is an intimate gesture, it can be romantic or platonic—depending on your relationship with the other person.^[1]
   
   • If your crush kisses you on the forehead, watch their body language and consider the context of the situation. For example, if they become touchy or kiss you in private after a deep conversation, it might be their way of admitting their romantic feelings toward you.
   • If a loved one gives you a kiss on the forehead, it’s usually a sign of affection or protection (or both). They love you, and they want you to feel safe and secure in their arms.
   • If your friend gives you a forehead kiss, it might be their way of expressing their platonic love for you—especially if you’re experiencing a loss or hardship. It's a comforting gesture to let you know that they have your back at all times.

[Edit]Romantic Forehead Kiss Meanings

1. They want to protect you. When someone kisses you on the forehead, it might be their silent way of saying “You’re safe, and I’ve got your back.” They want you to know that you can always count on them, and they're willing to do anything to keep you safe.^[2]
   
2. They feel an emotional connection to you. While a kiss on the lips indicates sexual attraction, a kiss on the forehead signals emotional intimacy—it’s a powerful expression of trust, vulnerability, and affection. Since they feel connected to you, they’re not afraid to open up and be their most authentic self. They feel safe and secure in your arms, and they hope you feel the same.^[3]
   
3. They appreciate you. If you’ve recently done something kind for them, they might be giving you a forehead kiss to express their gratitude. Maybe you dropped off their lunch at work or helped them with an assignment—regardless of your action, they see you and they don’t take you for granted.^[4]
   
4. They’re proud of you. If you recently achieved a goal or received good news at work, your partner might be giving you a kiss to express their support. They want you to know that they’re happy for you and they’re impressed by all of your accomplishments.^[5]
   
5. They respect you. When you’re having a deep conversation with a friend, it can be easy for them to go in for a kiss—they’re caught up in the heat of the moment because you opened up to them. Instead of following their impulses, they might give you a forehead kiss to convey their affection in a subtle, respectful way. They want to make sure you can trust them, especially when you’re in a vulnerable position.^[6]
   
6. They see you as more than a friend. If your friend starts to kiss your forehead out of the blue, it might be a sign that they want to take things to the next level. Instead of making a bold statement and kissing you on the lips, they want to make sure that you’re comfortable with their advances (so they don’t cross your boundaries).^[7]
   
   • If you can’t tell if they have feelings for you, read their body language right after they kiss you. Do they blush? Do they have trouble looking you in the eye? It might be a sign that they want you to make the first move.
   • If you’re interested in them, take some small risks to determine whether they like you. Make eye contact with them when they’re across the room to see if they return it. Or, ask them for more favors than usual and catch their reaction.
   • If you don’t have feelings for them, you can simply say, “I’m sorry, but I just want to be friends.” Or, “I’m flattered, but I don’t see you in a romantic way.”
7. They want to take things slow. Sometimes, it’s hard to tell if someone likes you, especially if you’re into them. If you get a forehead kiss at the end of a date, they might be trying to express interest without coming on too strong. Unlike a kiss on the lips, a forehead kiss doesn’t feel as intense or overwhelming.^[8]
   
8. They love you. A forehead kiss is a gentle and romantic gesture that can also signal pure love. Even if your partner doesn’t say the 3 words aloud, they might feel an overwhelming sense of empathy, care, and respect towards you. A forehead kiss indicates they love you for who you are, and they are willing to do anything to make you happy and improve your relationship.^[9]
   
   • To tell if they sincerely love you, reflect on your relationship and their behavior. When someone loves you, they want to be around you as much as possible and help you become the best version of yourself.
9. They want you to know that they love you—and not just your body. Since a forehead kiss isn’t fueled by sexual desire, think of it as a compassionate way to express affection. Your partner wants you to know that they see you as a person and not just a sexual object: they’re captivated by your mind, soul, and spirit—and your appearance is just the cherry on top!^[10]
   
10. They want to show affection without too much attention. Everyone has different boundaries when it comes to PDA, and a forehead kiss is a subtle form of affection—it’s sweet, family-friendly, but still lets everyone know that you’re taken.
    
    • If you want to spice up your relationship in public (without freaking out your partner), send him a naughty text during the middle of dinner or engage in a flirty game of footsie underneath the table.
11. They’re not interested in you anymore. If your partner only gives you forehead kisses, it might mean they’ve lost interest in you. Observe their behavior closely and assess the environment of your relationship. Do they withdraw every time you initiate sex? Are they always busy when you try to make plans? If so, bring it up to them so you can work through any issues together.^[11]
    

[Edit]Forehead Kiss Symbolism

1. Comfort{endbold} A forehead kiss can be a way of consoling you during tough times. Maybe you experienced a health scare or you recently lost a loved one. Or, maybe you’re just stressed from work. Regardless of your hardship, interpret it as a sign of care and empathy—it’s another way to say, “I’m here for you, and everything’s going to be okay.”
   
   • In Arab cultures, a forehead kiss acknowledges that the other person is grieving.^[12]
2. Care{endbold} Whether it’s coming from a friend, family member, or partner, a forehead kiss shows that they care about your well-being. They only want the best for you, and they hope you feel loved and supported—even when times get tough.^[13]
   
3. Protection{endbold} Often seen in movies and television, a kiss on the forehead is a common symbol of protection—especially when it comes from an older person. It’s a way to express care and protect someone from any harm or negativity.^[14]
   
   • For example, in The Wizard of Oz, the Good Witch of the North kisses Dorothy on the forehead before she goes on a journey to the Emerald City.^[15]
4. Friendship{endbold} If your friend gives you a kiss on the forehead, it might be their way of expressing their platonic love for you—especially if they’re shy or introverted. When they can’t find the words to express their love for you, a forehead kiss says, “You’re my ride or die, and I got your back.”^[16]
   
5. Affection{endbold} A forehead kiss is one of the most powerful forms of affection. It’s a silent way of communicating love and admiration for someone, and it lets them know you genuinely care about them.^[17]
   

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[Edit]References

[Edit]Quick Summary

1. ↑ https://medium.com/@gloriachelimo/the-real-meaning-behind-a-forehead-kiss-from-a-guy-f2584d7532d5
2. ↑ https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/dating-advice/forehead-kiss-2
3. ↑ https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a26039209/forehead-kiss-meaning
4. ↑ https://medium.com/@gloriachelimo/the-real-meaning-behind-a-forehead-kiss-from-a-guy-f2584d7532d5
5. ↑ https://medium.com/@gloriachelimo/the-real-meaning-behind-a-forehead-kiss-from-a-guy-f2584d7532d5
6. ↑ https://medium.com/@gloriachelimo/the-real-meaning-behind-a-forehead-kiss-from-a-guy-f2584d7532d5
7. ↑ https://medium.com/@gloriachelimo/the-real-meaning-behind-a-forehead-kiss-from-a-guy-f2584d7532d5
8. ↑ https://medium.com/@gloriachelimo/the-real-meaning-behind-a-forehead-kiss-from-a-guy-f2584d7532d5
9. ↑ https://medium.com/@gloriachelimo/the-real-meaning-behind-a-forehead-kiss-from-a-guy-f2584d7532d5
10. ↑ https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a26039209/forehead-kiss-meaning
11. ↑ https://medium.com/@gloriachelimo/the-real-meaning-behind-a-forehead-kiss-from-a-guy-f2584d7532d5
12. ↑ https://inheritanceofhope.org/how-to-help-someone-who-is-grieving
13. ↑ https://medium.com/@gloriachelimo/the-real-meaning-behind-a-forehead-kiss-from-a-guy-f2584d7532d5
14. ↑ https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/dating-advice/forehead-kiss-2
15. ↑ https://ozmuseum.com/blogs/news/84373508-a-kiss-is-still-a-kiss
16. ↑ https://medium.com/@gloriachelimo/the-real-meaning-behind-a-forehead-kiss-from-a-guy-f2584d7532d5
17. ↑ https://medium.com/@gloriachelimo/the-real-meaning-behind-a-forehead-kiss-from-a-guy-f2584d7532d5

How to Icks for Girls

Find out what gives your crush the gross-out factor

Have you ever gone on a dinner date with a girl and she was rude to the server? Or made you wait forever so she could get ready? These are just a few habits or behaviors that people find undesirable, or in other words, icky. In this article, we’ll cover what turns people off about girls so you can find out if your habits are actually a major turn-off.

[Edit]Steps

[Edit]Not having decent manners

1. {endbold} Nobody wants to be with someone who disregards other people's feelings. Not saying "thank you" or letting the door close when someone is behind you is rude.
   
   • The key to good manners is simple: treat others how you want to be treated.^[1]

[Edit]Being disrespectful to workers

1. {endbold} Service and retail workers are the backbone of our society. Generally, they aim to be helpful and kind to the people they serve. Treating them with rude language or bad manners is a major turn-off.
   • Like catching the cold, negative behaviors can be contagious.^[2] If someone is being negative, Deal with their rude behavior by being polite. Maintain a respectful voice and smile.

[Edit]Being a "know-it-all"

1. {endbold} While learning as much as possible is great, no one can truly know it all, so don't pretend like you do. Or, if you truly know a lot about a subject, be humble. Don't take it as an opportunity to mansplain or talk down to people.
   • In many cases of "know-it-alls," they feel they have to convince others of their importance or intelligence. In doing so, they use their knowledge to humiliate others.^[3]
   • Take pride in not knowing the answer to something. After all, it's a chance to learn!

[Edit]Neglecting grooming and hygiene

1. {endbold} Maintaining your appearance and cleanliness says a lot about you. It shows how much you're willing to take care of yourself. Things like bad odor, greasy hair, or filthy or torn clothes can lead people to go, "Ick!"
   • For some, keeping up with their appearance can be difficult due to external pressures. In that case, tackle the basics:
   • Brush your teeth, comb your hair, take regular showers, apply deodorant, and wear clean clothes.

[Edit]Having long fingernails

1. {endbold} While there's nothing wrong with rocking a nice set of acrylics, more often than not, guys aren't huge fans of the look. So, if you're going to express yourself with fancy nails, practice good nail hygiene.
   
   • Don't chew your nails, pick at your cuticles, or sport broken acrylics or long claws. Keep your nails neat and clean.

[Edit]Wearing too much makeup

1. {endbold} The same way nails are a form of self-expression, so is makeup. However, many guys find it icky when girls put on so much makeup that it changes their natural beauty.^[4]

[Edit]Obsessed with astrology

1. {endbold} There's a fine line where astrology is used for fun, and when it's used to determine relationships, life paths, and daily activities. When people rely on their horoscope readings to make life decisions, it's a sign that they’re easily influenced and incapable of making decisions.

[Edit]Incessant texts or calls

1. {endbold} It's one thing to send a double- or quadruple-text to a best friend. Doing the same with someone you just started talking to is another thing. Repetitive texts or calls at the start of a relationship signal to the other person that you may be more high-maintenance than they thought.

[Edit]Being too clingy

1. {endbold} The need for independence is crucial for any successful relationship. When you express signs of clinginess, that can be a major red flag to others. It tells them they'll constantly need to tailor their life around you—and that's not a way to live a happy and healthy life.
   • Signs of clinginess include demanding reassurance, expecting constant communication, and an inability to give the other person space.^[5]
   • Clinginess is often the result of survival needs, safety, love, and self-esteem.
   • To change needy or clingy behavior, take a moment to self-reflect. Learn new hobbies, like volunteering, physical activity, or art, that will keep you busy.

[Edit]Excessive jealousy

1. {endbold} It's a major ick when girls get overly protective or jealous when their partner hangs out with other people—especially of the opposite sex. In relationships, people want to feel trusted and secure. The truth is that jealousy screams insecurity for many people.
   

[Edit]Eating and talking simultaneously

1. {endbold} No one wants to watch solid foods turn into mush in real time. If you're telling an engaging story that can't wait, let the food wait its turn. Or vice-versa. Trust us, the other person will be thankful you did.

[Edit]Noisy eating

1. {endbold} For some people, the sounds of eating, chewing, and even loud breathing is a major ick. But before you try to defend your loud eating, don't get mad at them. They can't help it! Misophonia is a brain abnormality triggered by noises like chewing.^[6]
   • If noisy eating is a problem for you, a simple fix is to chew with your mouth closed. An open mouth lets air in, leading to smacking or slurping sounds.
   • You can also try eating slowly, avoiding non-crunchy food, or masking the sound of chewing with the help of background noise.^[7]

[Edit]Living in a mess

1. {endbold} A messy living area is a big red flag for many people. It says you don't take the time to care for yourself. Similarly, living in a clutter of knick-knacks or stuffed animals may give off the impression that you're a hoarder, which can give your potential partner the ick.
   • An easy way to clean your house is to group similar chores, like vacuuming the living room and bedroom, together so it can be accomplished in one go.

[Edit]Speaking in baby talk

1. {endbold} There are a few moments when baby talk is acceptable, such as talking to your baby or a cute, furry animal. When you're speaking to a grown adult? Cringe-worthy. Speak to your partner in a regular tone.

[Edit]Wearing inappropriate clothes

1. {endbold} There’s nothing wrong with turning lingerie wear into party outfits or rocking a short micro-skirt to the mall. But showing up to your partner's family dinner in a bra-top or daisy duke shorts may not be the move—especially if it's your first time meeting their family. Wear clothes that are appropriate for the occasion while remaining true to you.
   

[Edit]Taking forever to get ready

1. {endbold} Unlike Beyoncé, many of us don't wake up feeling flawless. Looking good requires work, but don't let it fall at the expense—and time—of others. Being late shows you don't respect the other person's time. Don't be rude. Get ready earlier, or sacrifice a step or two from your GRWM regime.

[Edit]Not paying on the first date

1. {endbold} Ladies, we know it's chivalrous for the guy to pay on the first date, but that doesn't mean you can't offer to split the bill or treat to dessert. After all, both people deserve to feel special, too.
   • If a second date is in your future, offer to pay for that one.

[Edit]Starting arguments for fun

1. {endbold} Arguments that appear for "no reason" are often a sign of boredom, self-sabotage, or discomfort with closeness.^[8] Instead of stirring up the pot, stop and identify how you're feeling.
   • If it's a sign of boredom, try learning something new with your partner, like cooking a new recipe or picking up a hobby.
   • If it results from underlying issues, like a lack of control, be open and honest with your partner about where you lack control to find healthy solutions.

[Edit]Bringing up your ex

1. {endbold} It's natural in new relationships to learn about your partner's past relationships. However, continuous mentions of an ex can be a significant red flag after weeks or even months of dating. It signals to your partner that you're still not over your ex.

[Edit]Too much PDA

1. {endbold} Showing PDA is a way to tell your partner you're not only proud to be seen with them, but you genuinely love being around them. However, when pecks on the lips or hand-holding becomes full-blown makeout sessions or groping, there's a time and place for that, and it's not out in public!
   

[Edit]Having a "Pick Me" personality

1. {endbold} A pick me girl is someone who goes out of their way to impress others by ensuring she's "not like other girls." ^[9] It often comes at the expense of diminishing other women and is rooted in misogyny. For onlookers, being unsupportive of others is a massive ick!

[Edit]Sharing your entire relationship online

1. {endbold} Let's be honest: soft-launching a new relationship online is cute. You post a picture of your partner's hand or a kissy silhouette to share on your social feeds.^[10] But when innocent pictures turn into sharing your entire relationship online, your partner may begin to feel like there's no sense of privacy.
   • Establish what your partner is comfortable sharing online before you post pictures or videos of them.
   • Similarly, always being on your phone or posting pictures is a turn-off for many, as it shows you're more engaged with the idea of them than actually spending quality time together.

[Edit]Constantly complaining

1. {endbold} Everyone complains. Still, it can create an air of negativity that doesn't jive with other people when it becomes relentless. Negativity isn't just about minor inconveniences, though. It can discourage others from chasing their dreams or trying something new.^[11] No one wants to be around someone who brings them down.

[Edit]Being self-centered

1. {endbold} People who are self-absorbed are a major red flag as they tend to act in their self-interest without considering others.^[12] Healthy, platonic, or romantic relationships are about helping one another grow and expressing care. But, if it's only a one-way street, that's not a real relationship.

[Edit]Dishonesty

1. {endbold} Building a relationship on a foundation of lies isn't suitable for anyone—especially for those in romantic partnerships. Healthy relationships are built on trust, encouragement, safety, and security.^[13]
   

[Edit]Leaving hair in the drain

1. {endbold} Ladies, there's no greater ick than revealing a clump of hair clogging the drain. Showers are supposed to be a clean space—not a hair catcher.
   • Before starting your hair or skin-care routine, peek in the shower and dispose of loose hair.

[Edit]Testing your partner's loyalty

1. {endbold} While "loyalty challenges" are all the rave on social media platforms like TikTok and YouTube Shorts, in reality, it's a massive red flag. Loyalty tests signal you don't trust your partner. It also says you're willing to put them on blast in front of everyone to prove they're a good partner.

[Edit]Oversharing with friends

1. {endbold} Oversharing isn't limited to online; it also includes friends or family members. We all need an outlet to share our frustrations or complaints occasionally. But, when sharing intimate details about your relationship, some things are better left between you, your partner, or a licensed therapist.
   • Before you open up, think about whether you would feel comfortable having the same level of details shared about you with others before you act.^[14]

[Edit]Bragging about being mean

1. {endbold} Despite the love for the movie Mean Girls, being an IRL mean girl isn't a cute look. No one wants to be around someone who has bad manners or puts others down for their own gain. It's shallow, cold-hearted, and shows your true colors.

[Edit]Fake laughing

1. {endbold} Often, people laugh at a bad joke because they don't want the other person to feel bad. Instead, this contributes to a false image and, even worse, the continuation of a bad joke. If something isn't funny, you don't have to laugh. The other person will get the hint.
   • Many guys want to be around someone who keeps it real, including telling them when a joke isn't funny.

[Edit]Not having goals or ambitions

1. {endbold} People want to be around folks who inspire and motivate them—even if their goals aren't the same. Establishing goals is a way to show others what you're passionate about, and being with someone who lacks passion is the biggest ick of all.
   
   • You don’t have to set ambitious goals to be passionate. It can be as simple as getting into strength training, learning a new hobby, or striving for a higher-paying job.

[Edit]References

1. ↑ https://www.canr.msu.edu/news/the_power_of_good_manners
2. ↑ https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2015-28930-001
3. ↑ https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/how-to/how-to-deal-with-people-who-think-they-know-everything/
4. ↑ https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/male-attitudes-on-makeup-gender-norms
5. ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/needy-person-in-relationships#what-causes-neediness
6. ↑ https://time.com/4659308/misophonia-noisy-eating-science/
7. ↑ https://soundproofliving.com/how-to-chew-quietly/
8. ↑ https://abbymedcalf.com/the-five-reasons-people-pick-fights-and-three-things-to-do-about-it/
9. ↑ https://www.modernintimacy.com/the-psychology-of-the-pick-me-girl/
10. ↑ https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/soft-launch-relationship-instagram-trend
11. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sapient-nature/201303/dealing-negative-people
12. ↑ https://psychcentral.com/health/reacting-to-selfish-people
13. ↑ https://www.ny.gov/teen-dating-violence-awareness-and-prevention/what-does-healthy-relationship-look
14. ↑ https://www.twoofus.org/educational-content/articles/are-you-oversharing-about-your-partner/

How to Lock Facebook Profile

Keep stalkers and strangers out of your profile with this locking guide

Have you found a Facebook profile with a blue shield and keyhole? This icon means the user has activated profile lock, which restricts most of their content and activity to friends only. Locked profiles are only available in some countries, so you might not be able to lock your profile. But don't worry—adjusting Facebook's privacy settings to get the same effect as a profile lock is easy. This wikiHow article teaches you how to lock and secure your Facebook profile, even if you're not in a supported country.

[Edit]Things You Should Know

• To lock your Facebook profile, click or tap the three dots near the top of your profile and select "Lock Profile."^[1]
• Profile locking is not yet available in all countries.
• If you don't have the option to lock your profile, you can lock down your profile manually.

[Edit]Steps

[Edit]Understanding Locked Profiles

1. Locking your Facebook profile is a fast way to convert all your content to friends-only. In just a few seconds, you can restrict the bulk of your content so it's only visible to your friends.^[2][3] When you lock your profile:
   
   • Your past and future posts, photos, and stories are all friends-only.
   • Only friends can click your profile or cover photo to see the full-sized versions.
   • Profile and tag review are enabled to prevent people from adding tagged content to your profile.
   • Most of the About section of your profile is only visible to friends.
2. Not everyone can lock their Facebook profile. Profile locking is not available in most countries, including the United States and Canada. While Facebook doesn't list which countries allow profile locking, most users in these countries can lock their profiles: Afghanistan, Australia, Egypt, India, Iraq, Morocco, Myanmar, New Zealand, Pakistan, Saudi Arabia, Sudan, Turkey, UAE, and Ukraine can lock their profiles.
   
   • You can still (mostly) lock your profile, even if your country isn't supported. While you won't get that cool blue shield on your profile, you'll have all the benefits and security of profile locking. It'll just take a little more time than clicking a single button, as you'll need to adjust many privacy settings manually.^[4]

[Edit]How to Lock Your Profile

1. Go to your Facebook profile.^[5] If Facebook allows profile locking in your country, you can instantly lock down your profile using your Android, iPhone, iPad, or computer.^[6]
   
   • If you're using the mobile app, tap Profile at the bottom of the screen.
   • If you're using a web browser, click your name at the top-right corner of Facebook.
2. Click or tap the three horizontal dots . You'll see this icon in the upper-right corner of your profile.
   
3. Select and confirm. If this feature is available in your country, you'll see it near the bottom of the menu. Information about locking your profile will expand.
   
   • Once you confirm, the content on your profile will immediately lock to everyone except for your friends.
   • You can unlock your Facebook profile at any time by clicking the three dots and selecting Unlock Profile.

[Edit]If Locking Isn't Available

1. Make your past posts friends-only. Even if you can't lock your profile, you can still make all of your past posts and photos friends-only in a few painless steps. Here's how:
   
   • Mobile app: Tap the three-line menu and go to Settings & Privacy > Settings > Posts > Limit who can see past posts. Tap Limit Past Posts, and then tap it again to confirm.^[7]
   • Computer: Click the menu at the top-right and go to Settings & Privacy > Settings > Posts > Limit Past Posts and then again twice more to confirm.
2. Make future posts friends only. This ensures your new Facebook posts are only visible to your friends. If you're using a phone or tablet, you'll also be able to make your future reels (which are just like Instagram reels) friends only:
   
   • Mobile app:
     • Tap the three-line menu and go to Settings & Privacy > Settings > Posts > Who can see your future posts? and select Friends.^[8]
     • To make future reels private, tap the three-line menu and go to Settings & Privacy > Settings > Posts > Who can see your future reels? and select Friends under "Reels default audience."
   • Computer: Click the menu and go to Settings & Privacy > Settings > Posts, then select "Friends" from the menu next to Who can see your future posts?.
3. Hide the information on your profile. By default, information like your location and relationship status is visible to the public or friends-of-friends. If you could use Lock Profile, your profile would instantly convert to friends-only. But you can also make these conversions manually:
   
   • Go to your profile on your computer, phone, or tablet.
   • Click or tap About and select Contact and Basic Info.
   • Click or tap the pencil icon next to each bit of information, then set the privacy to Friends or Only me.
   • Click or tap Save when you're finished.^[9]
   • Unlike locking your profile, non-friends can still see your profile photo and cover photo at full size. This is one of the few differences between profile-locking and making these changes manually.
4. Make future stories friends only. The stories you create on Facebook and in Messenger might be public. The only way to make future stories friends-only is to change your privacy settings the next time you share a story. After uploading or recording a photo or video for your story, tap the gear icon or the word Privacy at the bottom, then choose Friends.^[10]
   
5. Turn on Profile and Tag Review. These two features give you control over which tagged posts and photos will display on your profile. You'll get a notification when someone tags you in a photo or post—you can then opt to show the post or photo on your profile or hide it.^[11]
   
   • Mobile app: Tap the three-line menu and go to Settings & Privacy > Settings > Profile and Tagging. Set all options under "Viewing and Sharing" and "Tagging" to Friends, then turn both "Reviewing" options On.
   • Computer: Click the menu at the top-right and go to Settings & Privacy > Settings > Privacy > Profile and tagging. Go through all options on the page and set them all to Friends, then switch the two "Reviewing" sliders to On.
6. Control who can add you as a friend. This feature lets you limit who can send you friend requests to only friends of current friends. Here's how to do it:
   
   • In both the mobile and desktop versions of FB, click the menu, go to Settings & Privacy > Settings > How People Find and Contact You > Who can send you friend requests?, and select Friends of friends.^[12]
7. Prevent people from finding your profile. By default, Facebook makes it easy for people to find your profile by phone number and email address.^[13] People can also see your friends list even if they aren't friends with you, which makes it possible for strangers to contact unsuspecting friends. Here's how to lock down these features:
   
   • In any version of Facebook, open the menu and go to Settings & Privacy > Settings > How people find and contact you.
   • Tap each option in the list, then choose Friends or Only me.
   • To prevent people from finding your profile by Googling you, toggle off the switch next to "Allow search engines outside of Facebook to link to your profile."

[Edit]Video

[Edit]Tips

• Some information on your profile will always be visible, even if your profile is locked. If you really need to keep a low profile, it's best to deactivate your account until you're ready to return.^[14]

[Edit]Expert Interview

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[Edit]References

1. ↑ [v162494_b01]. 21 December 2023.
2. ↑ [v162494_b01]. 21 December 2023.
3. ↑ https://www.facebook.com/help/196419427651178?cms_platform=www&helpref=platform_switcher
4. ↑ https://www.facebook.com/help/196419427651178
5. ↑ [v162494_b01]. 21 December 2023.
6. ↑ https://www.facebook.com/help/196419427651178
7. ↑ https://www.facebook.com/help/236898969688346/?cms_platform=android-app&helpref=platform_switcher
8. ↑ https://www.facebook.com/help/336801584336688
9. ↑ https://www.facebook.com/help/276177272409629
10. ↑ https://www.facebook.com/help/208964522901975
11. ↑ https://www.facebook.com/help/247746261926036
12. ↑ https://www.facebook.com/help/217125868312360
13. ↑ https://www.facebook.com/help/131297846947406
14. ↑ https://www.facebook.com/help/154908788002686